It can feel demotivating when your manager has a clear favourite—and it’s not you. But don’t give in to the sense of rejection. You can strengthen the relationship and regain some favour.
Observe and adjust. Where is your boss’s attention focused? What’s their communication style? What are their goals? Take steps to better align yourself with these factors.
Communicate proactively with your boss. A passive approach will result in missed opportunities and make the situation worse. Instead, clarify their expectations of you, request feedback, and respectfully advocate for your needs and growth interests.
Make your achievements more visible. For example, you might summarise them in weekly updates to your boss via email, a shared document, or during your one-on-ones and by highlighting your team’s work in meetings.
Invest time and energy in your other work relationships. This can boost your performance and satisfaction, especially if you’re not receiving guidance, recognition, and opportunities from your boss. These connections may also provide advanced knowledge of job openings, which could be valuable if your situation doesn’t improve.
Take time to get on the same page as your boss and understand that they are human! Outside of work, they are a person too and be aware of what they might be bringing to the workplace. Adjust and reframe. Give it a while and see what works best for you. You’ll know if it’s worth staying on or not!